In the next few days, I will depart for a family vacation.  Ahead is the promise of fun-filled days of sun, water, amusement park rides, and happy grandchildren discovering the wonder of it all.  Right now is the crashing reality of a dirty house, laundry that needs to be done, shopping for shorts and swimsuits, finding the house/dog sitter, unfinished work assignments, and planning, planning, and more planning.  And not nearly enough time to do it all.

When my children were young, there was more frenetic activity but less complications.  We vacationed when we wanted to since homeschooling gave us a freedom from traditional schedules.  There was also the advantage of only Bill and I making the decisions.  Only our family’s schedule to consider.  Of course, there was no way that any vacation with young children can actually be called uncomplicated.

However, if you compare it to family vacations with grown children, it is a whole different set of problems.  Adult children have their own lives and schedules.  College classes have different start/stop times, different breaks than high school.  Jobs require planning and permission to leave.  The choices of destination are carefully considered to include everyone’s desires.  If there are young children involved, it changes the complexion of the trip.  My oldest daughter and I about went crazy trying to work out the logistics, meet everyone’s budget, find the best situation for everyone.  Even with all our efforts, it still might not be the whole family together. 

Overall, the rewards are great.  Anytime you can get your family all on the same page, spending time together, having fun, it’s worth any hassle involved.  If your adult children want to spend the time with you still, something is right.  There won’t always be a time when these things will work out.  Life gets more complicated when children establish their own families. 

Life goes on.  Children grow.  Keep the relationships strong no matter what it takes.  And, if they are still all little, don’t forget, they grow up. 

 Ecclesiastes 3:1

To every [thing there is] a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

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