July 27, 2008

Last night I watched “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” for the first time.  All right, so I’m not always up-to-date on watching movies.  Not even remotely up-to-date.  Strangely enough, it wasn’t my choice to watch it.  My dear one and I were having a rare moment on the sofa and I had the remote.  Scrolling through the choices, I suggested “Law and Order: Criminal Intent” or maybe a movie.  Guess what?  He chose the movie.  Me, I wanted the cop drama. 

So much for gender stereotypes. 

We watched the movie.  Guess who laughed more?  He did.  Eventually, I loosened up enough and enjoyed it too.  Frankly, I ended up liking it a lot.  My favorite part was at the end where the father, who loves to explain how everything, especially words, has a Greek origin, speaks at the reception.  To show his acceptance of his non-Greek son-in-law, the father toasts the couple and explains, in a slightly convoluted way, how the groom’s last name is originally Greek and means “apple.”  It’s quite a stretch.  Then he compares it to his family name which means “orange.”  In the end, he concludes that we are all different, but we’re all fruit!

My dear one and I are different.  I like intense TV shows and he is more fond of relational programs.  He fixes things and understands all the technical details and I can’t explain how I got from point A to point C, but I got there.  Probably an intuitive leap, which drives him crazy.  He can plot a course in an airplane and get where he’s going, but I’m the one with the directional sense on the ground.  I like to curl up with a good book and just relax, while he’s the one still working to get the job done.  He can do math and I, well, I married him because he can do the math. 

In the end, differences can drive us apart, drive us crazy, or drive us to where we need to be.  But, they are always an invitation to change.  Yourself, not the other guy.  Last night’s lesson for me was simple.  I need to lighten up a bit.  We did watch the cop show later and it was intense.  I think I liked the movie better.  It was just fun and sweet.  I don’t always want to slow down to that pace. 

So, which direction are you going to let the differences drive you?  Where you need to change is always the best choice.  No GPS necessary.  And remember, we’re all fruit!

Proverbs 27:17

Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.